Sunday, August 9, 2009

The Firsts of the Lasts & Lasts of the Firsts

A new children's book, Let Me Hold You Longer, was published recently. It speaks from a mom's point of view when she realizes she's always focused on and celebrated all of the "firsts" in her child's life, but never stopped to notice the "lasts." Nicki Glenn posted about the book on her BLOG not long ago.

A lot of the Seniors' (high school Seniors, not elderly) moms have been talking about the many "firsts of the lasts" we have to face with our teenagers this year. Most of them were thinking about how bittersweet it is to watch their child grow up and get closer to the day where they leave the nest. Their musings were both sentimental and full of mixed emotions. I'm no different.

Tomorrow is Shelbi's last "first" day of high school. Just last week I bought Shelbi school uniform pants for the last time. Many more "lasts" are coming. Last high school homecoming dance, last prom, then her first graduation.

I'm choosing to focus on the positive "firsts and lasts" Shelbi will have this year. For example, this will be her first year to drive herself to and from school, in her own car. This will be her first school year to have a part time job.

If you read my previous posts, HERE, HERE, and HERE, you know Shelbi recently overcame her battle with Selective Mutism. Every year since first grade, her teachers, principal, and I met to discuss an "individualized plan" to meet her needs at school. Accommodations were made to help Shelbi with her anxiety disorder and protected her from being penalized for not participating orally in class. Every year I signed the form hoping she wouldn't need it the next school year. Last year, without realizing it, I signed the LAST one! This year will be Shelbi's FIRST year with NO special accommodations. Do you know how long we've waited for this???? Well, if your Math skills are rusty, ELEVEN YEARS!!!

If that's not something to shout about, then I don't know what is!
Have a great school year! I'm sure Shelbi will! =)


  1. Enjoy being a senior, Shelbi! I do, but not in the same way you will!

  2. I am so glad you are celebrating her last firsts You are luck to have each other.
    I am SO glad that she over came herr disorder. Praise the Lord!

  3. If I wasn't at work I'd be bawling right now! Great post! :)

  4. I was thinking MAYBE we could be more relaxed this year w/ RSV season. But I am doubting it. Last year she got Synagis to prevent RSV and wasn't in daycare and still got it 3 times. This year she will be in daycare and the insurance company won't approve the Synagis, so we are probably going to be as careful as possible. On top of that, I just got a letter from our insurance company that Xopenex, the only medicine to help the RSV, is not a preferred drug this year, so it will cost a lot more this year. Last winter we used 6 boxes and it will be $120/box this year out of pocket. Also, there is no generic. YIKES!

  5. I am so happy for you! Looking forward to reading about all these
    firsts and lasts this coming season....

    I'm knitting away still... prepping for winter.

  6. I got a job at Pine Grove in Bastrop teaching 5th grad english, reading and spelling.

  7. Sounds great! That's my concentration area. Lang. Arts and Social Studies.
    How far do you have to drive?

  8. This post makes tear up in a good way! I'm so happy for Shelbi, and you too of course! She is going to have an amazing senior year.

  9. Congratulations to you and Shelbi. It takes a loving caregiver for a child to reach that milestone. I am 37 and sometimes when life is at its most stressful I still have to trust God to give me words. By His grace alone I speak. God bless you!